Are you a pro at saying no to many things in life? Nope, sorry I can’t make it to the birthday party. Nah, that play looks horrible. No, thank you, I am fine with my current job. I was the queen of no before I started taking improv. Now I know yes isn’t a 4 letter word.
While saying no is a crucial skill in establishing limitations, outlining what you want and preemptively avoiding troublesome situations, it leads to a predictable life – one that is confined around you. This means that you might even be rejecting the best of what life has to offer you. Not only is this a quality of life concern, but saying no can affect your creative performance too. This greatly impacts on how you look at your surroundings, with a skeptical perception, it is most likely that you will stop looking for better possibilities and instead look for why not? Rather than exploring the why?
There are several reasons to why we all quite frequently say no to things. It can be due to fear of harm, which is why you might often make wise decisions by refusing to take spontaneous leaps, resulting in missing the whole point of life. Identity protection is also another reason why you end up saying no. You would rather prefer to live with an illusion of vulnerability rather than face a potential failure. This prevents you from exploring the true potential within yourselves. Love of comfort is based on the presumption that as you climb the ladder of success, you have more things to protect, which results in avoiding trying out new things. Last but not least, your ego. Saying yes means to hand over some degree of control, which to some of us is unthinkable. Saying no is our way of imposing control over the world, which gives us some measure of comfort and security.
Learning to say yes has many perks. You can do this by enrolling into an improv show, which challenged your true potentials and takes you beyond your constrained limits. Improv shows challenge you to try out things that are completely foreign and truthfully scary. A key aspect of improv show is to say yes, as you might have unquestionably heard of the improv rule, ‘Yes, and…’ This basically means to accept what your scene partner has to say and building upon it. The essence of improv shows lies upon saying yes continuously because the minute you say no, the scene shuts down and it is no longer fun or engaging for both the people watching and those performing on the stage.
Saying yes not only prevents second-guessing, but also eliminates pointless ‘mind chatter’ so that you can focus clearly upon the more important things. It also pulls out several fascinating possibilities that you were unaware of before, you will feel like a truly changed person from within, someone who is friendlier, opened to surprises and less scared of doing unpredictable things. You will be introduced to an enriched and fulfilling life, one that is fun, exhilarating and interesting. So what are you waiting for? Say, yes and sign-up for the Improv Dojo.